Do you have an idea of the daily life of a woman divided between her home and her work. Household chores, parenting duties, and her profession outside the home represent a large part of the mental burden she must bear to make her married life enjoyable.
We are witnessing the emergence of an increasingly debilitating women’s syndrome, which affects women more than men.
The National Institute of Statistics and Economic Studies (INSEE) reported in 2010 that women occupied 64% of household chores and 71% of parental chores within the household.
Between the meals to prepare, the laundry to throw away and the household chores to do without forgetting the stress at work which is added to the list, the woman finds herself tired and struggling with an exhausting mental burden.
What is the mental load?
According to the French survey and marketing company IPSOS, 41% of French people take charge
The state of mind to manage, organize and plan household and parenting tasks, 24% for a double day and 13% for the association between professional and private life.
Therefore, this definition is not well understood by most people; Men feel it differently because they associate it with stress at work, while women feel it twice because they have to think about it.
Everything, to organize, to plan everything related to their home, without forgetting their professional success which occupies an important place in their emancipation.
Jean-Claude Kaufman, sociologist at the National Center for Scientific Research (CNRS) identifies these men
They do not have the same perception of mental burden as women because they do not have the same way of accomplishing daily tasks nor the same way of managing time.
Distribution of tasks between men and women: equality or inequality?
The inequality of tasks has decreased a little and you could say that it has increased over the years. However, for many women it is not the inequality of tasks that is the most troublesome, but rather the need to think everything through, plan and supervise all the tasks on a daily basis.
In addition, women are given responsibility for household chores and find themselves at the center of activities.
On a large scale, while a man hears himself helping his wife or undertaking gardening or DIY tasks that might even be considered hobbies.
The designer Emma in her book Another Look, illustrated a caricature of a woman and her emotional state in the face of a man’s coma to share the mental burden.
What is the solution to fairness in tasks?
A woman who needs to control and supervise everything sometimes does not leave room for a man to perform the tasks that should be his responsibility.
Some women make children of their husbands and limit themselves to execution, at a time when they should give them more freedom and teach them to take responsibility for their home.
To do this, the women must let go and why not go away for a few days without preparing anything and reverse the roles once.
This can have an interesting effect with the result, the awareness of the mental burden that plagues all women.
So taking off is essential, but just as much outside help.
Even though some families, especially women, feel guilty about not being able to fully cover the costs,
This solution can give them a breath of fresh air, relieve them of the accumulated stress and thus lighten their mental load.